“Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.” ~ Ephesians 5:15-16
In the melodrama that I’m directing right now, the characters have very few lines. The story is mostly told by the narrator, with the actors piping in with lines here and there.
One of the actors had her lines memorized almost immediately, because all her character ever says is no. That’s it. Every time she speaks, she says no. Sometimes it makes sense and sometimes it doesn’t, but she refuses everything in this play.
In the context of the play, someone who always says no can be funny. But in real life, people who always say no are often missing out. They might be saying no because of self-doubt, or they think they aren’t prepared, or they are waiting for something better to come along. Whatever the reason, they keep saying no, again and again, and often are surprised when they aren’t accomplishing the things they want to in life.
Saying no to some things can be a good thing – I do believe we are called upon to be wise with our time. But saying no to everything leads to isolation and discontentment. So be cautious when you say yes or no, and don’t let either one dominate your life. By using these two words wisely, you will be the person that someone can count on, because they know you mean them.