“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” ~ John 10:10
I have discovered that, sometime during the past two years, I have come down with a terrible case of SPG.
Single Parent Guilt, that is.
And while it sounds made up, it really isn’t. Google “single parent guilt” and you get all kinds of results (3.1 million, to be exact), many of which are written by psychologists and parenting experts, geared toward helping people cope with it.
I have found quite the adversary in my guilt as a parent, because no matter how I provide for my son, I can’t fix the one thing that I desperately wish I could – I can’t bring his dad back. No matter how much time I spend with him, no matter how many toys he has, no matter what I do, this fact of life is irreversible. I run myself ragged trying to fill the gap, when the reality is I can’t.
But I’m not meant to live a life plagued by guilt – as a single parent or a person. Christ died so that we could live life to the fullest, not be bogged down by all the things that are beyond our control. Nothing is beyond His control, and He didn’t miss the fact that being widowed also meant I would be a single parent. I’m still not sure I approve of the whole plan, but I do trust that He has one.
Whatever it is in your life that has you feeling guilty – give it over to God. He will help you through it. It may mean making changes (sometimes guilt exists for a reason), or it might simply mean that it’s time to let go of unrealistic expectations. Christ gave His life so you could have one – never forget that.