“For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.” ~ James 3:16
I just finished reading a book entitled, Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns). Now, I have to admit, I bought the book because the title made me laugh. And it was a funny book, having been written by one of the writers of The Office.
But I think the title of the book captures something that everyone worries about, at least once in awhile. Who hasn’t fretted about being left out, at least at some point in life? (If you are one of those people that has never felt this way, don’t tell me, because you’ll wreck my whole theory.).
I think the rise of social media has further perpetuated the myth that everyone else is living a better life and having so much more fun than we are. We see status updates and tweets that are phrased “just so” and we automatically assume that this ongoing onslaught of information must be how their life actually is, never mind that most people only post things that are noteworthy and put pictures up that are sure to show themselves in the best light.
We then find ourselves in the midst of chasing a life and existence that, in essence, doesn’t exist. And we don’t even realize that we’re acting out of envy, because the whole process is just so ingrained into our everyday lives. The enemy has set a trap that we don’t even see, because we expect it to be there.
So don’t worry – everyone isn’t actually hanging out without you. If you find yourself in the midst of a quiet social season, enjoy the extra time you have to spend with your Creator. And don’t let yourself get sucked in to believing that everyone you know has a glamorous, perfect life. They don’t. Instead, be thankful for all that God has given you and focus your time and attention on what He is asking of you in this life. In the end, that’s all that really matters.